Could a 50-Year-Old Personality Test Be the Dating Shortcut You’re Missing? Alyssa Bailey at Elle Magazine wanted to find the answers.

“I’m an ISTJ,” he told me, and that’s the moment I decided it could be doomed. It was only my fourth date with the guy, but until then, he’d seemed perfect: an intelligent 23-year-old with blond hair, visible maturity, and the derring-do to wear a pink button-up. He was a Southern gentleman just missing the bow tie, and I was his girly companion in pink, white, and red. Together, we made a lovely J.Crew catalog in New York City’s Riverside Park.

So when I asked his Myers-Briggs type, a practice I do with everyone I meet, I didn’t expect to hear an answer so far from my own. The test, officially known as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, categorizes people into 16 different, four-letter personality types, where each letter represents a preference between two modes of thinking—extroverted (E) versus introverted (I); sensing (S) versus intuitive (N); thinking (T) versus feeling (F); and judging (J) versus perceiving (P).

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